” I get a lot of letters from introverts asking how they can meet people. The key is to make sure that you are doing things you enjoy. “


” Your tendency to be inward-directed or outward-directed is huge, it governs every part of the way you live and work and love. “


” Shyness is about the fear of social judgments – at a job interview or a party you might be excessively worried about what people think of you. Whereas an introvert might not feel any of those things at all, they simply have the preference to be in a quieter setting. “


” In a way, education by its nature favours the extrovert because you are taking kids and putting them into a big classroom, which is automatically going to be a high-stimulation environment. Probably the best way of teaching in general is one on one, but that’s not something everyone can afford. “


” What’s interesting is relative levels of introversion tend to stay the same. If you went back to your reunion from school, you would probably find that if you ranked everyone in your class into terms of levels of introversion and extroversion you’d still be the same rank. “


” Many introverts feel there’s something wrong with them, and try to pass as extroverts. But whenever you try to pass as something you’re not, you lose a part of yourself along the way. You especially lose a sense of how to spend your time. “


” It’s important for a parent to learn to take delight in a child whose behavior might seem mystifying. In the case of an extroverted parent with an introverted child, it can be learning to see the inner riches of your child that may not always be expressed on the surface – but are there. “


” As a parent, if give yourself what you need, your children will watch you doing that and will give themselves what they need. “


” Opposites attract, and I think temperament is so fundamental that you end up craving someone of the opposite temperament to complete you. “


” I think the shyness one feels in childhood is often overcome with time. There are children who hide behind their parents’ legs, but you don’t see grown-ups hiding behind people. It just doesn’t happen. I mean, not that often. People develop social skills over time. “


” We need to do teacher training to educate them about what temperament means. Shyness is painful and you want to help a child with shyness – but the underlying temperament of being a careful, sensitive person is to be honoured, valued and respected. “


” Originally, technology was pretty clearly on the side of introversion. It allowed introverts to connect with people, to express their ideas in a less stimulating way: you’re sitting alone behind a computer. But I’m starting to think that the pressure to self-present constantly online is becoming so extreme. “


” You can’t pick up a business magazine ever without seeing the word ‘collaborate’ splashed all over it. I think people are probably feeling assaulted by the need to always be on and always be interacting. “



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I get a lot of letters from introverts asking how they can meet people. The key is to make sure that you are doing things you enjoy.
Your tendency to be inward-directed or outward-directed is huge, it governs every part of the way you live and work and love.
Shyness is about the fear of social judgments - at a job interview or a party you might be excessively worried about what people think of you. Whereas an introvert might not feel any of those things at all, they simply have the preference to be in a quieter setting.
In a way, education by its nature favours the extrovert because you are taking kids and putting them into a big classroom, which is automatically going to be a high-stimulation environment. Probably the best way of teaching in general is one on one, but that
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Many introverts feel there
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As a parent, if give yourself what you need, your children will watch you doing that and will give themselves what they need.
Opposites attract, and I think temperament is so fundamental that you end up craving someone of the opposite temperament to complete you.
I think the shyness one feels in childhood is often overcome with time. There are children who hide behind their parents
We need to do teacher training to educate them about what temperament means. Shyness is painful and you want to help a child with shyness - but the underlying temperament of being a careful, sensitive person is to be honoured, valued and respected.
Originally, technology was pretty clearly on the side of introversion. It allowed introverts to connect with people, to express their ideas in a less stimulating way: you
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