” For most women, the language of conversation is primarily a language of rapport: a way of establishing connections and negotiating relationships. “


” Relationships are made of talk – and talk is for girls and women. “


” Sister relationships span a huge range, from best friends to worst enemies. From ‘I adore her, I talk to her five times a day’ to ‘I decided to cut her out of my life.’ For most women, it’s in between. “


” When women told me they’d always wished they had a sister, they were thinking of this ideal of mutual encouragement and support. Many of those who have sisters also yearn for this ideal because their relationships with their sisters don’t always live up to it. “


” Women as mothers grapple with corresponding contradictions. The adoration they feel for their grown daughters, mixed with the sense of responsibility for their well-being, can be overwhelming, matched only by the hurt they feel when their attempts to help or just stay connected are rebuffed or even excoriated as criticism or devilish interference. “


” In a world of status, independence is key, because a primary means of establishing status is to tell others what to do, and taking orders is a marker of low status. Though all humans need both intimacy and independence, women tend to focus on the first and men on the second. It is as if their lifeblood ran in different directions. “



All 6 Deborah Tannen Quotes about Women in picture


For most women, the language of conversation is primarily a language of rapport: a way of establishing connections and negotiating relationships.
Relationships are made of talk - and talk is for girls and women.
Sister relationships span a huge range, from best friends to worst enemies. From
When women told me they
Women as mothers grapple with corresponding contradictions. The adoration they feel for their grown daughters, mixed with the sense of responsibility for their well-being, can be overwhelming, matched only by the hurt they feel when their attempts to help or just stay connected are rebuffed or even excoriated as criticism or devilish interference.
In a world of status, independence is key, because a primary means of establishing status is to tell others what to do, and taking orders is a marker of low status. Though all humans need both intimacy and independence, women tend to focus on the first and men on the second. It is as if their lifeblood ran in different directions.

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